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Purpose is easier to recognize than most people think when you focus on what energizes you.

The real obstacle to purpose is not clarity but the courage to take action.

What excites you is a more reliable guide than searching for a grand life mission.

There’s a persistent myth that purpose is complicated. That it requires years of soul-searching, a perfectly crafted mission statement, or some lightning-bolt moment of clarity that suddenly reveals why you exist. But that hasn’t been my experience either personally or professionally. Purpose, at its core, is actually quite simple.

What’s not simple is acting on it.

Most of us were taught to think of purpose as our why—a grand, overarching explanation for our lives. Something noble. Something impressive. Something that would look good printed beneath our name in a conference program. The idea sounds inspiring, but in practice it turns purpose into a high-stakes guessing game. We start trying on identities the way someone tries on outfits before a big event, hoping one finally fits. When none feel quite right, we assume the problem is us.

That’s when purpose starts to feel elusive, mysterious, and just out of reach.

When you believe there is only one correct answer to the question “Why am I here?” it creates a kind of psychological scarcity. You start to think there’s a single hidden purpose out there with your name on it and if you don’t find it, you’ve somehow missed your chance. It’s like searching for a needle in a football field of haystacks. The pressure alone is enough to paralyze you.

And paralysis feels a lot like confusion.

But what if we’ve been asking the wrong question all along?

In my experience, purpose isn’t a cosmic explanation. It’s behavioral. It isn’t something you discover in theory, it’s something you experience in action. A much more useful definition is this: purpose is what you do that lights you up.

Those moments are rarely hard to identify. Most people already know, at least intuitively, what energizes them. For one person, it’s dancing. For another, it’s hiking. Someone else feels most alive wandering through antique stores or playing pickup basketball or tinkering with code late at night. These are not mysteries. They’re clues.

When we stop obsessing over outcomes and instead pay attention to what genuinely pulls us in, purpose suddenly shifts from something abstract to something practical. Don't ask, What am I meant to do with my life? Instead ask, What makes me feel most alive when I’m doing it?

That’s the simple part.

The hard part is what comes next.

The Challenge of Taking Action

Because once you know what lights you up, you still have to act on it. And action is where purpose tends to stall. Thinking about what excites you is safe. Doing something about it is not. Action requires effort, time, and the willingness to risk being bad at something. It asks you to step out of imagination and into exposure.

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You like basketball? It’s easy to say so. It’s harder to find a game, organize a league, or sign up for one where you might be the worst player on the court. You enjoy writing? It’s pleasant to think about starting a blog. It’s much harder to hit publish and risk silence—or worse, criticism.

Action invites uncertainty, and uncertainty makes most of us uneasy.

That’s why purpose and courage are so tightly linked. Not because purpose itself is mysterious, but because living it requires you to face the possibility of failure. Every meaningful action carries some chance that it won’t work out. The league might never form. The blog might never grow. The podcast might launch to an audience of three.

Still, none of that invalidates the purpose. In fact, it confirms it.

I’ve run into this tension repeatedly in my own life. Starting my medical practice was an obvious step toward a purposeful career. I didn’t need years of reflection to know medicine energized me. But knowing that and actually building a business were two very different things. The paperwork, the logistics, the financial risk—all of it was intimidating. The path was clear. Walking it was not.

The same thing happened when I felt drawn to personal finance education. It was obvious to me that talking and writing about money lit me up. But recording my first podcast episode or submitting a book proposal felt like standing at the edge of a diving board. The water looked inviting. The jump still took nerve.

Identifying Purpose Anchors

That’s the pattern I see over and over: purpose is rarely hidden. Action is what we avoid.

If you feel stuck or uncertain about your purpose, the solution is surprisingly straightforward. Start with what I like to call your purpose anchors—the activities that consistently energize you. Not the things you think you should enjoy. Not the things that impress other people. The things that actually make you feel engaged, absorbed, or quietly satisfied.

Notice when time seems to move differently. Notice what you look forward to without being told. Notice what you return to even when no one is watching.

Once you’ve named those anchors, the next step is expansion. Ask yourself what actions could grow out of each one. If you love reading classic literature, could you start a small book group? Commit to one novel a month? Write essays about what you read? The moment you look for possibilities, you realize there are dozens. Maybe hundreds.

Purpose is rarely a single path. It’s usually a branching network.

Then comes the final step. The one most people resist. Do something. Anything. Take the smallest available action in the direction of what excites you. Momentum doesn’t appear first; it follows movement. Each concrete step, no matter how minor, lowers the psychological barrier to the next one.

You don’t need a master plan. You need a starting point.

We tend to think purpose should feel like a revelation. In reality, it behaves more like a spark. Sparks don’t look impressive at first. But given oxygen and fuel, they become fire.

So perhaps the real shift is this: stop treating purpose like a riddle you must solve before you can begin living. Instead, treat it like a direction you confirm by moving. The question isn’t “What is my purpose?” The question is “What action am I willing to take today toward something that energizes me?”

Purpose isn’t complicated. It’s behavioral. It’s immediate. It’s already whispering to you through your interests and curiosities.

All it asks in return is courage.

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