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Blame from adult children can challenge not only one's parenting but one's whole identity.

Blame reduces a complex history to a single, simplified explanation.

Unrelenting blame keeps everyone stuck.

"You ruined my life!"

Few words are more painful for a parent to hear. Even if those exact words never leave your adult child's lips or are never sent via text, many parents hear a close version of the message: "It's your fault that I am struggling." For the many parents (who are, for sure, not perfect) who have spent years living, sacrificing, worrying, and trying their best, the accusation can feel very emotionally overwhelming.

Let's look now at three reasons adult-child blame hits so hard.

1. It Challenges Your Identity, Not Just Your Parenting

As my best friend from kindergarten says,........

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