It is difficult to deal with someone who has strong narcissistic tendencies because they rarely look at themselves or take responsibility. Instead, they unconsciously or subconsciously employ a cognitive distortion called the victim stance. This allows them to distort what happened, so they can see themselves as the innocent party in the interaction and you as the villain. Although you wholeheartedly disagree, the narcissist is adamant that their version is the correct one. Often this causes you to question your own sanity.

For example, Lisa and Amy are collaborating on a critical work project. Lisa completes her half of the project, but Amy is unable to finish her part by the deadline and makes several excuses. Lisa reminds herself to be patient and asks Amy if she can help. Amy agrees and permits Lisa to do........

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