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Indecision often reflects a struggle to avoid difficult feelings, not a lack of information.

There is rarely one perfect choice, but there is usually a values-aligned next step.

Psychological flexibility helps you act on what matters, even when you're unsure.

It’s pretty common in my practice to have clients come in with what feels to them like life-or-death decisions.

A medical student is trying to decide whether to do residency in pediatric neurosurgery or psychiatry. He doesn’t want to close the door on working with kids, but he also knows he may have a more flexible schedule as a psychiatrist—and that matters to him if he wants to have his own kids.

A single dad is texting with a romantic interest. She doesn’t respond. Should he reach out again? Will she think he’s desperate if he does? Will she disappear if he doesn’t?

How do we decide the best path when we are ambivalent? A part of us wants this. A part of us wants that. And we don’t want to miss out on either.

When my clients are stuck in the middle and don’t know what to do, I see it as the perfect opportunity for psychological flexibility. Because the truth is, there is no one right path for any of us. No matter what you decide, there will likely be discomfort, loss, or disappointment.........

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