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Too often, a longer term relationship becomes focused on kids, work, chores, and logistics.

Many couples report there is little passion, attraction, romance, or play.

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“Dr. Cheryl, we are just roommates.”

“I love them, but I’m not in love with them anymore.”

“They’re my best friend, but there’s no passion.”

The kids. The work. The house. The schedules. The groceries. The dog. The endless list of things that need to get done. Somewhere in the middle of all that life…the two of you disappeared.

This is one of the most common complaints I hear from couples.

This is not always a dramatic crisis. It is often quieter than that. It is the slow, steady drip of disconnection. But over time, that drip can wear away even the strongest stone. And the two of you, the couple, get lost in the business of life.

Welcome to Marriage Incorporated

Many couples do not fall apart because something huge happened. They drift because they became very, very good at running the business of the family.

I call this Marriage Incorporated.

The mortgage gets paid. The kids get to school. The careers are managed. The house is mostly functional. The dog gets to the groomer on time. Everyone gets some vegetables — at least most days.

Bravo!........

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