The pain of loss and grieving is a constant companion for those experiencing divorce. It's difficult to focus on the positives when we are in pain.

The science of gratitude offers hope for family members of gray divorce—that is, couples aged 50 and older ending their marriage.

Thomas, 58, has been struggling with depression since his divorce seven years ago. A family friend of Thomas referred him and his 32-year-old daughter, Sarah, to me for family therapy.

In addition to the loss of his marriage, Thomas has lost his relationship with Sarah. She blames him for her parents' divorce and has not allowed him to spend time with his four-year-old grandson.

Thomas sat diagonally across from me on the loveseat in my........

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