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"Wildflowering" is letting relationships grow organically without enforcing any timelines or expectations.

It can help combat too much rigidity and strategizing in dating and help you just relax and go with the flow.

However, it can be problematic if you already tend to be indecisive or date the wrong people for too long.

Ultimately, know yourself, your situation, and your preferences and be frank and open about them to others.

You could say that this term has become quite poppy lore. It's "wildflowering." It means allowing a relationship to either wilt or bloom completely organically without enforcing any particular timelines, labels, or expectations. Such a wild approach to dating may work for some and in some situations. But at the same time, it could leave others daisy and confused. The question then is: Where along the spectrum should you plant yourself when?

The Advantages of Wildflowering

You may prefer wildflowering if you are currently more about "going with the flow" and have the time and freedom to simply see what happens. Perhaps you are still quite early in your dating career, not ready to commit to anyone, or otherwise need time to figure out what you want in life. Maybe you simply want to play the field rather than be tied down to one person too soon.

Wildflowering could then let you........

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