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Ruminating over past mistakes causes shame and anger.

With past problems, we often forget crucial elements and instead berate ourselves for making mistakes.

Compassion helps us look at past mistakes differently.

Believe it or not, there was once an X-Men character called Hindsight. They could get glimpses of other people’s past just by touching them. Looking back, they probably wished they’d chosen a more helpful power.

I’m not a mutant superhero, but I certainly have lots of regrets. Some big, some small. I remember activities I wish I’d chosen to join and people I wish I’d spoken to (or spoken differently to). I think of purchases I made that ended up being a waste of money. Sadly, there are even choices I made that later caused someone else pain. Currently, I’m in the process of making some big financial decisions, and before it’s even happened, I am imagining........

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