It's Not All Strap-Ons: The Best Lesbian Sex Toys And How To Use Them

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Porn really did a number on our concept of lesbian sex.

For decades, there hasn’t been anywhere near enough representation for the women-loving-women (WLW) out there, with buzzwords like scissoring, strap-ons, and tops being thrown around when anyone mentions lesbian sex.

So this might come as a complete surprise, but there’s a hell of a lot more to it than that.

Thanks to famous WLW like Chappell Roan, Kristen Stewart, and Renée Rapp talking more openly about lesbian sex, our idea of what it involves (and who does what to who) has evolved in recent years.

We’re proud to say we’re living in an age of lesbian renaissance, so much so that the number of people identifying as lesbian increased from 2.2% in 2018 to 3.8% in the UK. That might not sound like a lot but, trust us, it shows the tides are turning.

But whether you’re new to lesbian sex, or seasoned in the art of loving vulva owners, there are still plenty of misconceptions about positions and sex toys knocking around (literally).

So, ahead of Lesbian Visibility Day 2026, we asked experts what lesbian sex really looks like, and rounded up some of the best sex toys to enhance your adventure.

Misconceptions about lesbian sex toys

We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again: identifying a lesbian has nothing to do with men.

As much as free internet porn might have convinced you otherwise, wanting penetration during vulva on vulva sex doesn’t equate to wanting to have sex with men – or be one.

This is one of the most common misconceptions about lesbian sex toy use, according to sex educator for Lovehoney, Javay Frye-Nekrasova.

“When people, especially lesbians, choose to use dildos and other insertables, it has nothing to do with wanting to have a penis or trying to ‘be a man’ but is just an avenue for pleasurable exploration and sex that is penetrative,” she says.

When lesbians choose to integrate strap-ons, this also doesn’t mean that the wearer ‘should’ be the more........

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