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We Talked To A Couple Into ‘Hot Husbanding,’ A Kink Where Sharing Is Caring
“A hot husband is someone that is so attractive and ‘hot’ they function almost like a status symbol for their partner,” said Heather McPherson, a marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist in Austin, Texas.
Sharing is caring. Or at least that’s how people who are into “hot husbanding” feel.
The kink got mainstream attention last month, when comedian Nikki Glasser went on “The Goop Podcast” and talked about “sharing” her on-and-off-again boyfriend, Chris Convy, with other women.
Glasser went on to liken her kink to “lending my friend a hairdresser.”
Glasser and Convy’s arrangement isn’t a two-way street; the comedian, who hosted the Golden Globes in January, has said in the past that she’s not looking to have sex with other men, though it “might be [her] thing someday.” If Glasser’s boyfriend was into “sharing” her, they’d be hotwifing. (The kink is also sometimes called “stagging.”)
What, exactly, is hot husbanding? There are myriad ways couples (and single) get their hot husbanding rocks off, so no one definition could encompass it all. But broadly speaking, “it’s putting the focus on a partner’s desire to show off their hot husband,” said Heather McPherson, a marriage and family therapist and sex therapist in Austin, Texas.
“A hot husband is someone that is so attractive and ‘hot’ they function almost like a status symbol for their partner,” McPherson said. “The partner may also take pleasure in sharing him with others as part of the experience.”
For some, it might just be talking about the idea with their partner that’s a turn-on. Others venture out and find other women to have sex with their partners.
From the male’s point of view, it’s difficult to say, ‘hey, I’ve got a partner, but let’s go out and have a sexual encounter.’ Most women just think I’m out to cheat on my partner.Chase, a 48-year-old “hot husband”The dynamic exists in the same kinky universe as cuckoldry or cuckqueandom ― where a man (a cuckold) or woman (a cuckquean) takes pleasure in watching their partner have sex with someone else. (Or hearing details of their partner’s sexual intimacy with a third party or established partner.)
There’s consent and boundaries with both kinks, but they differ in one key way: Those into hot husbandry aren’t generally turned on by any humiliation aspect of being “cheated on” the way a cuckquean is, McPherson explained.
Oftentimes, partner swapping is about having subversion in safety, said © HuffPost
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