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You’re Not Too Much, You Might Just Be Too Deep for Dating Apps

“When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower.” ― Alexander Den Heijer

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Have you ever noticed that the deepest, most self-reflective people are often the ones who struggle the most in love? It can’t be a coincidence, can it?

Now, this is not to say that you or your relationship is “shallow” just because it came semi-easily to you. Everyone has different expectations, standards, and values when it comes to dating, and there’s really no right or wrong.

But I have realized that my more philosophical, intuitive, and sensitive friends seem to struggle more when it comes to love. And I myself have had a difficult run in the dating scene, craving a deep soul connection that’s hard to find in today’s world.

That begs the question: why do “deep” people seem to struggle in modern dating? 

Deep Connections Take Time to Build

If you’ve been on the dating apps or have spent a ton of time in today’s dating world, you likely know that modern dating........

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