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The Person You Just Started Dating Probably Isn’t Who You Think They Are

Attraction is clouding your judgment.

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Most of today’s daters expect to feel instant chemistry early in dating, but research warns that this experience might cloud your judgment. In fact, according to a global survey conducted by MyIQ of approximately 5,400 adults aged 22 to 38, 61 percent of respondents discovered unexpected personality differences within the first year of their relationship. These differences didn’t emerge until real life hit—you know, the daily routines and responsibilities. 

Think about it: you’re on a first date with someone you find attractive, banter well with, and engage in deep conversations with. You notice the spark you’ve been missing in other connections, and you think this connection must be fate. With this in mind, you don’t even bother asking important questions about the person’s lifestyle, goals, and values. In fact, you might even brush off some subtle red flags because your chemistry is just that good.

Unfortunately, this is a common occurrence in the modern dating scene. While we all want to feel attracted to and understood by the person we’re seeing, true........

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