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5 Things Therapists Want You to Know Before You Start Dating Again

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A recent survey by Hily Dating App found that 71 percent of people feel motivated to actively date. Naturally, many of those people are turning to dating apps as their solution. But therapists are warning of some of the dangers of misusing (or prematurely using) dating apps, especially when it comes to mental health.

Here are five things therapists wish people understood before downloading a dating app—so you can get the best results.

1. You Must Understand What You’re Looking For

When you don’t know what you want in dating, you tend to fall for just about anyone who piques your interest. Some of my worst dating experiences stemmed from my own lack of clarity.

“Dating apps open you up to more people than you’d realistically meet in your day-to-day life, which is one of the best parts of them,” says Dr. Sabrina Romanoff, relationship expert at Hily Dating App and Harvard-trained clinical psychologist. “But it can also feel overwhelming and hard to make intentional choices if you don’t have some kind of internal anchor. A lot of people go in thinking they’ll just ‘see what happens,’ but then end up pulled in different directions by surface-level attraction, curiosity, or the feeling of being pursued.” 

Thankfully, you don’t........

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