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4 Ways to Survive a Wedding When You’re the Single Friend, According to a Therapist

A therapist says curiosity, self-compassion and a simple plan can help single guests manage anxiety and actually enjoy the celebration.

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Throughout my 20s, I attended countless weddings and bridal celebrations, many of which alone. Being one of the only single bridesmaids or wedding guests always made me feel ashamed, as if I somehow was less valuable or accomplished without a date on my arm. Showing up alone took more courage, confidence, and—let’s be honest—money than I could muster.

I now look back at these times with compassion toward my past self, who struggled with insecurities and social anxiety. If I could, I’d go back and tell her to enjoy the present moment without worrying about her relationship status. As it turned out, in many cases, I ended up having a blast as the single bridesmaid, dancing the night away without a care in the world.

If you’re in a similar spot, preparing for a wedding as the single friend, you’re not alone—and your singlehood does not have to define you. Here are four tips for being the best solo wedding guest........

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