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How to Know if Your Relationship Can Handle a Threesome Without Ruining Everything

Sex therapists say the answer depends on trust, communication, jealousy, and whether both partners genuinely want the same thing.

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The threesome has spent millennia at the top of the sexual fantasy charts, immortalized in movies, half-joked about at dinner tables, and held onto by the majority of people who will never actually pursue one.

According to research by Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute who surveyed more than 4,000 Americans for his book Tell Me What You Want, 89% of participants had fantasized about a threesome at least once, making it the single most common sexual fantasy across genders. A nationally representative study found that only 10% of women and 18% of men had actually had one. The math on that is instructive.

In your head, a threesome goes exactly the way you........

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