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7 Dating Mistakes to Avoid After Divorce, According to a Therapist

From looking for a replacement ex to rushing into romance, a therapist explains the common traps that can make dating after divorce harder.

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Getting divorced and dating again are two very different experiences. One ends a relationship. The other drops you into a dating world that probably looks nothing like the one you remember.

Research suggests people who’ve been married can come out of it with stronger relationship skills and a better sense of what they want in a partner. That’s not to say it doesn’t come with struggles. Therapist Oona Metz, author of Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women, writes in Psychology Today that people can still fall into some familiar traps once they start dating again. Some are obvious. Others are easier to spot after you’re already in them.

1. Trying to Clone or Cancel Your Ex

Some people end up dating a new version of their ex. Same chemistry, same tension, same exhausting dynamic with a different face. Others go hard in the........

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