There are two statements kids often make that decades of scientific research suggest are actually true: “It takes one to know one” and “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” The big takeaway is that the things you say about other people are often seen as a reflection of you, too.

Dr. Shadé Zahrai, an award-winning leadership strategist, Harvard-trained coach, and member of the Forbes Coaches Council, explained the phenomenon in a viral TikTok post that focuses on how to be more likable and seen as a good person by others. Her lesson, however, is a double-edged sword.

@shadezahrai This habit makes you more likable (and a better human). #psychology #socialpsychology #socialintelligence #conversations #emotionalintelligence #leadership ♬ original sound – Dr. Shadé Zahrai

This habit makes you more likable (and a better human). #psychology #socialpsychology #socialintelligence........

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