Parents are people, too. Whether they subscribe to “gentle parenting” ideas or a more old-school approach, the truth is that they’re just doing their best. Sometimes they get it right, sometimes they make mistakes, and quite often, it’s hard for anyone to tell whether they’re doing a good job until years later.

In September 2015, Heidi Johnson’s son, Aaron, was 13, deeply in adolescence, and in that stage where he’d frequently lash out and defy her at every turn. In one such instance, he stubbornly told her he shouldn’t have to deal with her rules and should be independent. So she wrote a strict but loving “Mom’s not a fool” letter. In the letter, she wrote that because he bragged about making money from his YouTube channel, he could buy back all of the things that she had purchased for him in the past and that he would also have to pay rent.

Here is what was in the letter

Since you seem to have forgotten you are only 13, and I’m the parent, and that you won’t be controlled, I guess you will need a lesson in independence. Also, as you threw in my face that you are making money now, it will be easier to buy back all the items I bought for you in the past. If you would like your lamp/lightbulbs or access to the internet, you will need to pay your own share of costs.

The itemized bill totaled $717. She also added some additional chores that, if not accomplished, she would fine him $30.

“He came home, saw the note, crumpled it on the floor, and stormed out of the apartment. I have always encouraged him to take a walk when he is upset so that he can collect his thoughts, so when we try to talk, we are able to talk, and not just yell at each other. I do the same thing — sometimes, I just need........

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