The debate remains whether character is followed by manners or conduct. Psychologists of repute maintain that manners precede conduct, and there is ample substance to support this view. A child’s first exposure to the world is interaction with parents, closely observing their behavioural patterns with keen interest.

By nature’s design, the child evaluates traits with acceptance or rejection. Some traits appear desirable, while others fail the young mind’s litmus test, driven by an innate nobility breathed into every human soul. No child likes witnessing shouting matches between parents. This early dislike forms a foundation of manners that later shapes conduct. Loud conversations are also repugnant to the standards of behaviour mentioned in divine teachings.

Character, it is said, is known to God and the individual; reputation is what the world sees. The latter is manageable and often at odds with reality. Character is foundational — the bedrock of personality. Families with strong, unwavering traits pass those on, yet good character can still be acquired. Abraham Lincoln,........

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