I am spending a lot of time at my late mother’s house, sorting things out, wondering why she had so much asafoetida and thinking about the past. Every time I’m there, my sister asks me to water the garden, and I never do. Then she says: “Please, just do the window boxes, otherwise the plants will die,” and I still don’t. “I may come and take the potted plants away, or you could take some, if you want to kill them in your own house?”, she says, and still I ignore her, because I don’t know anything about gardening. So........

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