The strongest men I’ve known didn’t behave anything like Donald Trump.

They were capable of restraint, first off. They may have spoken loudly, but they never used volume to enforce authority. None of them thought domination equaled leadership. How silly that would be.

Instead, these men empathized. They listened, correcting themselves when necessary. They apologized without fear of appearing weak. They understood that a paycheck, a job title, or physical prowess alone did not make them men. Not one of them mistook cruelty for strength. They learned that at home, on the job, and in the service. They understood the difference.

The US president is different. Just in the past week, while his vice-president sought to “help” a foreign autocrat facing re-election, Trump continued his conflict with Iran and publicly mocked Pope Leo XIV for urging restraint before posting a blasphemous image that likened him to Jesus Christ. (Trump claimed it depicted him as a doctor.)

These are ways that this man conveys strength. He learned them by watching us.

In the United States, we too often define strength as........

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