During a divorce, it is crucial to renegotiate boundaries with one's former spouse.

Boundaries are less about telling someone else what to do and more about outlining one's own priorities.

Strong boundaries help create safety, trust, and respect.

Divorce clearly comes with stress and challenges, along with intense feelings of loss and grief. Yet, we also know that divorce offers opportunities for profound growth and change.

If we think of this period of growth as a cycle that reinforces itself, you can picture how feeling empowered might lead to clearer boundaries, which might lead to feeling stronger and happier. In unhealthy marriages, the cycle often goes in the opposite direction.

While the topic of boundaries has become popular recently, there’s still confusion about exactly what boundaries are. In The Book of Boundaries, Melissa Urban defines them as “clear limits you establish around the ways you allow people to engage with you, so that you can keep yourself and your relationships safe and healthy.”

In other words, boundaries are not about telling someone else what to do but rather defining what you will and won’t accept. They are about your behavior, not theirs.

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