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Many people arrive in therapy seeking answers to a relationship that has gone wrong. They say things like:

“We were so good in the beginning. What did I do to cause things to change?”

“I keep replaying our last conversation in my head. I still don’t know where it came from or how to respond.”

“I simply can’t get over the thought that this whole thing was somehow my fault.”

Searching for answers when a relationship is on the rocks, or has recently ended, is a normal response. However, excessive rumination, thought-spiraling and fixation can lead to deeper psychological issues. Although we all have a natural tendency to want to understand the sequence of events that caused the breakdown, we also owe it to ourselves to protect our mental health. This sometimes means avoiding trying to make sense of nuanced and inexplicable scenarios. It also means steering clear of self-blaming cycles.

Here is one way to know if you struggle with relationship overthinking, as well as two strategies to turn difficult episodes into opportunities for growth.

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