One in six men without a college degree currently lives with their parents.

Men living at home miss two critical windows for building social skills and friendships.

Men living with parents are significantly less likely to be in the labor force.

I lived at home until I was 25.

Community college first, then a state school. After I graduated, I stayed put until I had a job and enough saved for a down payment to buy a house with my girlfriend—skipping the rental market entirely until my mid-40s. I know. Crazy right?

But I wasn't stuck. I had a plan. My parents drilled one thing into me: no debt. Pay as you go, work part-time if you have to, finish school clean. So I did.

I was lucky. Electrical engineering degree. Silicon Valley. Late 1990s. We were literally building the Internet (back when you capitalized the I). The job was there when I needed it. Moving out was a transaction I executed on schedule.

What I didn't get were the years of learning to live with other people. No dorm. No roommates. No negotiating over dishes and noise and space at 19 years old when that kind of friction is actually good for you. The dorm is a crucible—you're thrown together with strangers, you have no choice but to figure it out, and somewhere in that mess, friendships form that last decades. I skipped all of that. It wasn't until years later that I understood what that proximity actually teaches you and what it costs you when you don't get it.

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A new study puts a number on what many men already feel.

I at least had a plan and a degree waiting for me on the other side. The........

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