Having more does not make people happy.

It seems that many people are so busy keeping score that they stop living life.

You can learn to shift your scorekeeping to the things that will make you a better a human being.

I am an avid golfer. I keep score every time I play a round of golf. Like many serious players, I even submit my scores to the United States Golf Association’s Golf Handicap Information Network (GHIN)—a nationwide score tracking system that maintains my handicap round-to-round. It’s a terrific tool that enables me to measure my progress week to week. But I don’t use it to see how I’m doing compared to my playing partners.

Of course, I used to.

Like many naturally competitive people, I wanted to see if I was playing better than my friends. It’s a quasi-keeping up with the Joneses tendency that I quickly recognized was not a source of inspiration or happiness, so I stopped. Cold turkey. No more comparing myself to my golf buddies. And, guess what? I’m happier, and I’m playing better golf as a result.

Think about all the invisible scorecards a typical person might have cluttering their psyche at any point in time:

You name it, people keep score, and it’s not........

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