When a marriage ends, the very first question many people ask isn’t about lawyers or paperwork. It may be a quiet unspoken fear or a turbulent tailspin: “What do I do now?”

Or maybe it’s “How will I get through this?” Maybe these words aren’t spoken aloud, but this is a normal reaction to an emotional earthquake. Whether you saw it coming or it hit you out of nowhere, these questions can be overwhelming.

This post is for that moment when you’re struggling, trying to make sense of your next steps. Not the court dates or the logistics—those will come—but where your heart is broken, you’re knocked off balance, and your future seems unimaginable. You aren’t even sure who you are anymore.

Let’s walk through it. Let’s hold that emotional moment with self-compassion and open space for some practical steps you can take right now to start finding your footing again.

It sounds simple, but especially........

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