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Wanting things is human, but attaching our sense of okayness to getting them keeps peace out of reach.

We suffer less when we stop arguing with reality and meet this moment as it is.

Peace is not found by fixing the moment, but by allowing it.

Many years ago, I attended a weekly mindfulness gathering. Just above the entrance to the room where the group met, there was a sign that read: Can this moment be enough?

My honest reaction when I first saw those words was a hard no. At that time in my life, I rarely felt like I was enough, or that the moment I was in was enough. Like many people, I was focused on what needed to change (in me, others, or the world) before I could finally relax or feel at peace.

Over the years, as I continued along the path of mindfulness and meditation, that question began to land differently. I started to realize that whether I judged myself or the moment to be insufficient, the facts of reality didn't change. What changed was my state of mind. I could certainly time travel through worry or memory, but the physical facts of the moment remained the same.

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