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'My Child Is Worried He's Not Real. He Ended Up Sobbing Because Of It'

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28.06.2025

If your child is questioning reality, here's what experts recommend saying to them.

Children have the most impressive imaginations – but is it normal for a child to question whether they’re living in reality? And how on earth can parents respond if they do?

The parent of an almost 10-year-old shared on Reddit that their son had asked them “how we know if we’re living in reality”.

Taking to r/Parenting, user said (in a now-deleted post): “He has asked this before, and we’ve told him that we also wondered that when we were his age. He ended up sobbing because he is so worried about this.

“It’s concerning, and I’m wondering where this is coming from. He does play some games on his VR [virtual reality] headset. Any chance this is causing the confusion? Have any other parents had this issue?”

Other parents shared they’ve experienced similar concerns from their kids – and even remember questioning this themselves growing up.

The parent of an 11-year-old boy who had asked something similar said: “My response was ‘who cares since as far as we know, it’s our reality’. That seemed to satisfy him, but I’m guessing he’ll bring it up again soon.”

Another commenter added: “I’ve got a wild thinker too ... I think just continuing to answer any questions and looking to educational resources when you don’t have the answers is the way to go.”

Is it common for kids to question reality?

Therapists think so. Both BACP-accredited counsellor Jenny Warwick and child psychotherapist

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