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Allie Volpe

Allie Volpe

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You should be having more slumber parties with your friends

It had been a long week, and Tonna Obaze really wanted to hang out with her friend Bria. But she also didn’t want to get off the couch. A logical...

12.11.2025 10

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Is it okay if I don’t love my partner all the time?

Early into her relationship with Thomas, Leigh was on the fence. Those days should’ve been rife with butterflies and intrigue, but something was...

05.11.2025 10

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The most important questions to ask when picking a health care plan

Selecting a health insurance plan in the US is a little like going through a maze, or solving an impossibly difficult crossword puzzle. It can be a...

04.11.2025 4

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How to be a better complainer

Among my least admirable qualities is my penchant for complaining. I’m quick to vent to anyone who’ll listen, to moan and groan over any minor...

29.10.2025 10

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The upside to ranking your friends

Derek Gregory hasn’t been in the same state, let alone in the same room, as his best friend Ringo in nearly two decades. Their relationship dates...

01.10.2025 10

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Therapy will make you ready for a relationship — and other mental health myths — debunked

Joe Nucci, like many brand-new therapists, loved showing off his fancy new psychology vocabulary during grad school. All these diagnoses and concepts...

24.09.2025 5

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How to rediscover your creativity in 3 simple steps

You might not consider yourself a creative person anymore, but you almost certainly were at one point. Among childhood’s many blessings is the...

18.09.2025 5

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Why are single men so miserable?

All his life, Shea Mandli had a clear vision for his future. A wife who would see him through the ups and downs of life. Six, maybe seven, kids to...

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The most effective productivity hack is the one you least want to do

The human brain wasn’t built for all this — all of the information, screens, meetings, scheduling, thinking. The problem is the brain hasn’t...

26.08.2025 30

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Are we in a crisis of rudeness?

It’s a question, a lingering suspicion that has bedeviled nearly every generation: Are the kids these days getting more rude, more brash, more...

19.08.2025 30

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Start a business? In this economy? Here’s how these entrepreneurs did it.

Many workers, perhaps disillusioned by cubicle walls and fluorescent lighting, may have indulged in a fantasy at some point in their careers. They’d...

01.08.2025 3

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Can you still love summer when it’s so damn hot?

If you’ve found yourself thinking this summer feels hotter than normal, you’re right. It’s not just the occasional heat dome trapping most of...

31.07.2025 10

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Most couples used to meet this way. What happened?

Like many women these days, 30-year-old Jude Cohen is over dating apps. So she’s decided to relinquish some of the responsibility in finding a...

30.07.2025 10

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What To Do, and Not Do, During a Heat Wave

This story was originally published by Vox.com and is reproduced here as part of the Climate Desk collaboration. The Earth has never been so hot....

29.07.2025 2

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What to do (and avoid) in extreme heat

The Earth has never been so hot. Millions of people, amounting to nearly half the country, across the Southeast, Midwest, and Northeast are under heat...

28.07.2025 4

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Am I actually “too sensitive”?

Everything could be going fine until one inconsequential comment, one offhand remark ruins your day. Your mother casually criticizes you. A coworker...

28.07.2025 9

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We should be in a golden age for sleep

For much of history, humans probably got pretty lousy sleep. Prior to the Industrial Revolution, many people slept in the same bed alongside their...

14.07.2025 7

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What if IUD insertion didn’t have to be so painful?

The appointment before she got her first intrauterine device, or IUD, Ana Ni’s doctor asked about her pain tolerance. Low, she said; medium, if...

10.07.2025 10

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Obsessive step counts are ruining walking

According to my phone, I’ve been averaging about 6,600 steps a day so far this year. My meager effort pales in comparison to the 15,000, 20,000, or...

30.06.2025 7

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What if your friends were just as important as your spouse?

Like many Americans, the writer Rhaina Cohen is shopping for a home. Unlike many Americans, she’s searching for a house to live in with her friends...

11.06.2025 10

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Beware of this silent, seething relationship-killer

For the last year and a half, Angela has been waging a silent corporate war with her boss. When the two women started working together in finance,...

06.06.2025 10

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What do you actually owe your in-laws?

Anna can’t exactly pinpoint when her relationship with her sister-in-law started to sour. Rather, it was a slow unraveling.  When the two met over...

04.06.2025 20

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How much work is too much in a relationship?

If you’ve been to an engagement party, bridal shower, or wedding, you’ve probably heard a well-meaning relative offer these sage words of wisdom:...

02.06.2025 20

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Gen Z misery, explained in one chart

The kids, it’s been suggested, are not okay.  For decades, established research showed that happiness and well-being levels tend to peak during...

28.05.2025 10

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The only rule you need to follow before inviting friends over

Inviting people over to hang out at my house is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, I don’t need to leave home. On the other, I’m plagued by...

16.05.2025 10

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The secret to actually trusting each other

Among all the mental calculations and decisions we make each day as complex social beings, we choose, actively or implicitly, to trust. By staying in...

07.05.2025 8

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You grew up with your siblings. But do you need to be friends?

Ashley Pro lived with her sister Dennice for 28 years. They moved in together after leaving their childhood home, and if Pro hadn’t been transferred...

29.04.2025 4

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When friendship means scheduling a dinner date four weeks out

Mikaela Shafer values spending time with her friends, and if that means booking a flea market day three months in advance, she considers it a small...

14.04.2025 40

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The best financial advice right now is the most counterintuitive

The Trump administration’s announcement of widespread tariffs has thrown the stock market into a tailspin, increasing the odds of a recession. ...

08.04.2025 9

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How to live with life’s inevitable risks

The world is trying to kill you, this much is true. Planes are crashing on a near weekly basis. “Forever chemicals” and microplastics are in our...

03.04.2025 5

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Get ahead of allergy season this year

That sneezy, itchy, watery-eyed time of year has yet again returned: it’s allergy season. Seasonal allergies are the body’s response to pollen...

31.03.2025 10

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The realist’s guide to spring cleaning

The state of a kitchen pantry, closet, or garage says a lot about a person. There are some who seem to have the innate ability to keep their spices...

27.03.2025 5

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Americans’ increasing antisocial habits, explained in one chart

Amid the country’s reckoning with loneliness and isolation has come a startling truth: Americans are spending far more time alone — and, according...

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Having a hard time finding love? This might be why.

Last year, a specific archetype for an ideal boyfriend gained traction online: a Man in Finance. Trust fund. Six-foot-5. Blue eyes. What began as a...

07.03.2025 10

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A little boredom is good for you

When was the last time you felt utterly, stupefyingly, mind-numbingly bored? It might’ve been when you languished in the waiting room at a...

03.03.2025 3

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She lived in an underground bunker for 10 days. Here’s what she learned.

In a Cold War-era bunker-turned-Airbnb situated 50 feet below ground in Arkansas, journalist Lynne Peeples conducted an experiment to better...

25.02.2025 3

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Why you need one meaningful social interaction a day

On the days when he’s not in front of a classroom of students, University of Kansas professor Jeffrey Hall is heads down in his office writing,...

15.02.2025 9

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Why are young men so hopeless at dating?

A Vox reader asks: Why are young men struggling or failing to date/engage in romantic relationships more so than their female peers? In a recent...

12.02.2025 30

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Validate me, please!

At this particular moment, I’m feeling a little bad about myself. This profession I’ve chosen — and really, this life that I lead — relies so...

05.02.2025 10

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“Protecting your peace” can kill your friendships

This story was originally published in The Highlight, Vox’s member-exclusive magazine. To get early access to member-exclusive stories every month,...

05.02.2025 20

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What if you threw a party tonight?

The US, apparently, is becoming increasingly averse to parties. As The Atlantic noted last month, only an average of 4.1 percent of Americans attended...

05.02.2025 8

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Using ChatGPT to write an email? Sure. But an obituary?

When his grandmother died about two years ago, Jebar King, the writer of his family, was tasked with drafting her obituary. But King had never written...

01.02.2025 8

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Thinking about merging finances with your partner? Here’s what to consider.

In the name of love, couples make all sorts of arrangements, from which side of the bed each partner sleeps on to who does the food shopping and...

31.01.2025 10

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The beginner’s guide to building an emergency fund

Because life is unpredictable and a major expense is one accident away, popular wisdom maintains that all adults should have an emergency fund....

31.01.2025 5

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Was your home damaged by a wildfire? Here’s what to do next.

In the midst of the devastating wildfires that have raged through the Los Angeles area over the last week, thousands of residents are grappling with...

14.01.2025 3

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Productivity “hacks” don’t work. These do.

With the collective reset of a new year — and after the sluggishness of the holidays — you might be thinking that it’s the perfect time to recommit...

06.01.2025 30

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Never pay a medical bill without asking these questions first

Your doctor orders blood work or requests you get a biopsy, or maybe your kid broke a bone and you need to rush to the emergency department. A few...

03.01.2025 10

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The most important questions to ask when picking a health care plan

Selecting a health insurance plan in the US is a little like going through a maze, or solving an impossibly difficult crossword puzzle. It can be a...

02.01.2025 3

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Can you still be close to someone whose politics you despise?

When Kay’s two best friends — a married couple she met at work — told her they weren’t voting for Donald Trump in the 2024 presidential...

23.12.2024 10

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The best advice we got in 2024

If you’re reading this, you probably know there’s no shortage of advice — good, bad, middling — in our digital landscape. Influencers are always...

19.12.2024 4

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