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Researchers Asked Couples Why They Weren’t Having Sex. Here’s What They Found.

Couples often skip sex for mundane reasons, but how they explain those missed opportunities could affect their satisfaction.

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Every couple swears they’ll be the ones who keep having great sex forever. Then a few years go by, someone’s wearing a mouthguard to bed, and sex becomes something they’ll definitely do this weekend.

Sex researchers led by Kristen Mark followed 87 couples for a month to find out why they weren’t having sex, and the most common explanations were incredibly boring. According to their study, men and women were equally likely to say things like “it just didn’t happen” when asked why they didn’t have sex. Sometimes there simply wasn’t time.

The more interesting differences came when people started explaining whose fault it was. Women........

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