When Urgency Becomes Safety
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ADHD often amplifies activation-based productivity.
Overfunctioning is often a survival strategy.
Healing is about expanding choice.
“Oh, this was a bad idea,” I thought to myself. Exhausted, drenched in sweat, and at the tail end of an ADHD-fueled purging spiral, I sat on my kitchen floor surrounded by mismatched Tupperware lids and three full garbage bags. Faced with finishing the task that had felt so urgent moments before, and now felt completely out of reach, I could clearly see the error in my ways. This wasn’t the first time I had mistaken urgency for clarity (and I’m confident it won’t be the last).
I had started this project, that felt absolutely necessary in the moment, only to find myself stranded in the aftermath of it a short time later. What appears to be motivation at the beginning is more accurately labeled in this case as activation. Moments like these arrive fast. They arrive as a narrowing of attention, a kind of internal pressure, and a sudden conviction that something must be done immediately. Not later, not eventually, but right........
