What Does "Self Help" Mean?

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Independence doesn’t mean doing everything on your own.

Asking for help doesn’t make us any less capable.

When we let someone help, we give them the opportunity to show they care.

When was the last time you were on a rollercoaster? Honestly, I can't remember the last time I was on one, although lately life itself has felt like a rollercoaster ride. Riding the highs, lows, and everything in between certainly keeps things interesting, even if some days it feels pretty challenging. But it's reminded me of something important: You don't have to do everything yourself.

This is not an easy thing for me to admit. I’ve always been fiercely independent. I've always been determined to figure things out myself. I struggle to ask for help because I hate the idea of inconveniencing anyone and, honestly, because it makes me feel weak and incapable. Yet, I know that's not true, not for me or for anyone else. Sometimes, we just need help.

That doesn't mean someone else has to completely take over and solve our problems for us. It could mean hearing a different perspective, getting some new ideas, or just being listened to. Or it could mean someone holds our hand and stands there with us. Whatever shape that help takes,........

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