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Couples often complain about poor communication or not understanding each other.

Knowledge of attachment theory can help manage common conflict patterns in relationships.

Too much understanding of one's partner can create a sense of security without desire.

Many people come to therapy with a goal to work on communication, especially with a partner. The problem, as many see it, is “poor communication,” and the goal is to have “better communication.”

Poor communication can mean a lot of things, including ongoing and repeated conflicts, trouble expressing what we want or need, and avoidant tendencies.

Therapy can work out a number of these issues. Understanding our cycle of conflict can create quicker off-ramps to repair. Learning about our attachment styles can give us strategies to self-soothe or call attention to excessive withdrawal. Even incorporating simple scripts into our dynamic can vastly improve how we relate to........

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