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When caregiving, you may not always recognize when you need help.

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You may want to follow your usual self-care practices, but in "mini" form.

Two years ago, my longtime romantic partner Brian was diagnosed with leukemia. At first, our life together was much like it had always been. But eventually he became too weak to drive himself to his various appointments, including to the hospital for his regular blood transfusions. I gradually became his chauffeur, chef, medication technician, and general organizer, amid multiple other responsibilities.

During my first visit to the transfusion area, I smiled pleasantly (I thought) and began to introduce myself to Brian’s nurse, “Karen.” Karen, who had never seen me before, took one look at me and said, “You.” She pointed at me. “You need some ‘me time.’ Go upstairs to the coffee shop. Get your favorite drink, then look out the window at the beautiful view.” She gave me another appraising look and said, “And I think you need a hug, too.” Which she promptly gave me.

I was only too happy to follow her instructions. But how did she know I was on my last nerve when I didn't realize it myself? I can only conclude that the stress of caregiving was somehow written all over my face.

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