It’s not abnormal to find your partner’s quirks annoying from time to time. However, if you start to view these once-endearing traits as suddenly intolerable, it could be a sign that you’re falling out of love with your partner.

Falling out of love isn’t the same as being complacent in love, nor getting too comfortable with your partner. In those cases, you can still crave quality time with your partner. You still want to be with them, rather than with other people. Rather, it’s a point when you can barely stand to be around your partner anymore. No matter how much you try, you cannot seem to want to put in effort. What once came easily now feels exhausting. What you once viewed as their quirky traits now seem like major character flaws.

Here are four signs that you are falling out of love with your significant other.

Criticism is one of the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” which can signal the end of a relationship, according to marriage experts Drs. John and Julie Gottman.

Being constantly critical of your partner is not the same as making valid complaints. Your tone shifts from light teasing or constructive feedback to nitpicking all the time. You may find yourself berating their personal qualities and attributes when you’re bothered by something minor they may have done. You may even add obscenities when you talk to them, sometimes without meaning to.

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