A sad reality of sexual life is that no matter how hot a partner you have managed to attract and how crazy fun sex has been between you, we almost always habituate to a partner and their attractiveness over time. Even the most beautiful celebrity couples probably struggle with this. As a general rule in psychology, what starts out as feeling like an exceptional gift in life quickly becomes what we expect, our standard, the norm—and yes, it can become a bit boring.

The online gurus suggest keeping things spicy, fresh, creative, and open to novelty. But gosh, that seems like so much work, doesn't it? Maybe I am out of keeping with those gurus. My focus here is on what to do when you start worrying about some loss of desire, especially when your and your partner's desire is out of sync.

Certainly, some people experience a significantly reduced (or complete lack of) sexual interest or arousal. This state is more extreme than what is commonly experienced in that people with a sexual interest/arousal disorder often have no sexual thoughts or fantasies at all, experience little pleasure during sex and decreased........

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