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"Shoulds" are a type of cognitive distortion that can lead to unhelpful self-judgment.

Using kinder language in your thoughts is more motivating than shaming yourself.

Becoming aware of your "shoulds" can aid in reframing these thoughts in more constructive ways.

It's important to notice how you talk to yourself, as there is power in the language that you use.

With that in mind, how many of these thoughts have you had?

"I shouldn't have said that."

"I should have known better."

"I should be able to handle this."

"I shouldn't feel this way."

"I should have been prepared."

"I shouldn't make mistakes."

You've likely had thoughts that contain the word should at some point in your life. The shoulds are a type of cognitive distortion (unhelpful thinking habit) that can lead to judgment. You may judge others, for example, "They shouldn't act that way," and yourself. In this post, we will focus on the shoulds you direct at yourself, though the strategies may be helpful for all cognitive........

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