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Overthinking adult children mistake "thinking about it" for actual progress.

Many adult children wait for certainty before taking steps to move forward.

Overthinking by adult children can turn small tasks into overwhelming risks.

Many adult children who "lack direction" tend to appear unmotivated or "lazy." Most are far more capable than they themselves believe. So why are they stuck? What I see repeatedly is that they are caught up in (often hidden) overthinking loops that stall them from taking action. These grown children are really hurting. It may not appear that way when they are shut down or lashing out, but I have seen, over and over, how much pain overthinking brings them. It can truly be devastating.

In my work with families, and as I describe in my book, Freeing Your Child From Overthinking, I see this pattern again and again. The more they think, the less they move forward. From the outside, it appears as plain old procrastination or a lack of drive. But, it's really about their minds working overtime to avoid discomfort, uncertainty, or the........

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