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If you grew up feeling you were not good enough, you may have had narcissistic parenting.

The traumatic effects of narcissistic parenting can follow us into adult life.

Setting boundaries and limiting contact can help heal from narcissistic family dynamics.

Did you grow up feeling that you were not good enough, constantly seeking approval from the people around you? If this sounds familiar, you may have had a narcissistic parent. Parental behavior can have powerful effects on their children’s lives.

Parents with narcissistic traits are self-centered, lack empathy, and have a strong sense of entitlement. Constantly demanding attention and admiration, they can neglect and emotionally manipulate their children, using guilt, fear, and shame to control them (Ghasemi Rahmatabadi et al., 2026). To maintain dominance, they may lie and use gaslighting to make their children doubt themselves (Burleson & Dutton, 2026).

The traumatic effects of such parenting can follow us into adult life, affecting our mental health, personal identity, and future relationships.

Children of parents with narcissistic traits can grow up with self-doubt, low self-esteem, and feelings of inadequacy. They can experience an internalized negative voice or inner critic that tells them they’re not good enough (Mao et al., 2026; Sokova et al., 2025).

These children, especially daughters, may experience persistent shame, anxiety, and feelings of inferiority (Burleson & Dutton, 2026). Fearing rejection and........

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