People often ask, "Well, if punishments don’t work, what does?"

My answer is not just one thing.

First, you have to facilitate through the situation, which means realigning your mindset and asking yourself what you need to do to effect change for the next time you see this behaviour.

Once this mindset has been established, there is a sequence of steps we must avoid to be able to effect change. These are as follows:

1. Do not allow your reactions to be based on what your child is saying.

Let's take a look at a common example: Child says, 'You never help me.' You reply, 'What are you talking about? I’m trying to help you now?!'

There is no

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