'Our daughter arrived at our house hand-in-hand with a female'

Our 26-year-old daughter dated a lovely guy for three years; therefore, her dad and I assumed she was happy and would settle down with him.

But she ended their relationship, and we accepted that the decision was hers and left it at that.

However, we were excited to meet her new partner at the weekend, but we were speechless when she arrived at our house hand in hand with a female!

Mulling it all over, we realise we can’t make choices for her, and that as she is an only child, we will never have grandchildren.

We are trying to put a face on it, but feel we have lost a huge part of our future.

You had 26 years to ‘assume’ your daughter was following the traditional route, but then she handed you a new potential future, and you’re righty confused.

Her younger years played out straightforwardly, but now that she is maturing, she is broadening her sexuality.

Jess, you, and her dad must have a great parent-daughter relationship because she obviously trusts you both and knew you wouldn’t kick off.

She didn’t hide her new partner away, but quickly brought her home for you to meet, hand in hand, showing you just what they are all about.

We live in a world where she will have parenthood options she may not have had in the past if she does or ever did want to become a parent.

Your grandchild's worries are yours, not hers, so let her experience her new relationship without overloading her.

Explain that this is all new to you and that you’re keen to get to know her partner.

At the end of the day, your happiness comes from hers, so once the initial shock subsides, you will see that she is with someone who puts a smile on her face.

My flatmate’s new boyfriend has all but moved in, but he doesn’t pay rent.

He started leaving his toothbrush, razor, and now his size 12 trainers have taken root at my front door!

I know he takes care of himself because he’s in my shower twice a day and eats healthily, as my fridge is full of his yoghurt, veggies, and berries.

The agreement was between me and my flatmate, no one else, so what can I do?

On a positive note … he isn’t a slob!

It’s unfair to take advantage of your hospitality, but energy bills, etc., are expensive, therefore it’s time for a housemate’s chat with all three of you.

For future reference, stick the house rules on the fridge door, agree he can move in permanently, but state the monthly amount he pays you.

A three-way split of the bills is a bonus.

If that doesn’t suit him, then limit the nights he stays over and ask him to shower and feed himself when he gets home.

This is an all-or-nothing situation.

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