'I met a girl at a work event and sparks were flying - what can I do?'

I met a girl at a work event, and although we didn’t get the chance to chat, our eyes locked, and sparks were flying.

I’ve never felt so drawn to another human being, and I could tell she felt something, too.

She was ushered away, and I was gutted that I missed my chance to chat to her.

I can’t stop thinking about what might have been.

Is there anything I can do?

Sounds like a truly magical moment, and one which doesn’t happen often (if at all), so yes, you must at least try, but there is a fine line between tracking someone down and stalking them, so be careful.

Approach the organisers of the event and explain that you saw an old colleague at a recent event, but you missed the chance to connect.

They can’t forward her personal information without consent, but they can certainly pass on your details, and include a photo, so that she knows exactly who is trying to track her down.

Perhaps she has a partner, or was merely flirting, but unless you go for it, you’ll never know.

Every day I run my three kids, 12, 14, and 16, to their clubs, etc.

I visit my elderly mum every few days, and my sister, who has MS.

I work four days in a supermarket, do the shopping, laundry, and pretty much anything else that needs doing, and at 42, I feel like a 90-year-old!

My husband is useless and gives me no support, but I doubt I can change him.

Everyone goes about their daily business, whilst I feel invisible in the background.

I’m stuck and don’t know how to change.

You are a people pleaser, and a very good one at that, but people pleasers rarely set boundaries, make themselves a priority, or aspire to much other than ensuring everyone else’s needs are met.

I bet no one is aware of how dejected you feel, and something must change before your physical and mental health are affected.

It’s your job to teach your kids how to budget, cook, clean, do their laundry, etc., and you’re not giving them that chance, so show them what to do, and take it from there.

Your husband is lazy, selfish or both; therefore, tell him your life has become nothing but drudgery, and you need his help to run the home that he lives in.

If nothing improves, then take drastic action.

Go for drinks with your workmates and leave them to organise meals, washing up, and chauffeuring.

Once your brood is left to fend for themselves, they’ll appreciate the strain you are under, because experiencing something has much more effect than talking about it.

Jean, if the captain of the ship goes overboard, who is qualified to be second in command?

No one, by the sounds of it, so address your overburdened life now.

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