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Elizabeth Li Ph.d

Elizabeth Li Ph.d

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When Being the Victim Becomes a Strategy

How victimhood can be used as a tool, and why it can be so hard to step away.

16.04.2026 40

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Elizabeth Li Ph.d

Why Some People Always See Themselves as the Victim

How predatory minds use victim narratives to get what they want from others.

15.04.2026 30

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Elizabeth Li Ph.d

When Therapy Treats You as the Problem to Fix

When feeling “off” isn’t just in your mind, but misread as something to fix.

09.04.2026 50

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Elizabeth Li Ph.d

When Therapy Explains Before It Understands

Why therapists sometimes get it wrong—and why your experience still matters.

08.04.2026 60

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What if Your Therapist Is Wrong About You?

07.04.2026 40

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Elizabeth Li Ph.d

When Existence Becomes the Only Claim to Worth

05.04.2026 60

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Why Some People Need to Believe Success Is Immoral

How moral judgment can function as a defense against psychological threat.

04.04.2026 60

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Elizabeth Li Ph.d

People Don’t Just Update Beliefs, They Test Them

Change happens through experiencing safety and disconfirmaion of old beliefs.

01.04.2026 50

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Why We Don’t Change—Even When We Know What’s Wrong

Insight isn’t enough; your mind prioritises predictability over change

31.03.2026 70

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What Once Saved You May Be What’s Holding You Back

07.11.2025 60

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When Sadness Finds Its Exit Through Rage

07.11.2025 60

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Elizabeth Li Ph.d

Why Some People Always Feel Angry and Unfairly Treated

06.11.2025 80

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Elizabeth Li Ph.d

Choosing to Be Loved Without Working for It

04.11.2025 50

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Elizabeth Li Ph.d

What the Right Therapy Feels Like When You Find It

07.08.2025 40

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Elizabeth Li Ph.d

How Two Types of Therapy Helped One Patient

06.08.2025 40

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When Adulthood Feels Too Dangerous: Inside an Avoidant Mind

04.08.2025 40

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Why Some People Never Seem to Grow Up—and Can’t Admit Why

03.08.2025 40

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Was I Helping, or Just Playing a Role in Her Script?

06.06.2025 40

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Elizabeth Li Ph.d