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The ‘Black Cat’ Dating Trend Could Change How You Approach Relationships

A therapist explains why confidence, independence, and healthy boundaries matter more than acting mysterious or withholding affection.

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You’ve heard of the golden retriever boyfriend, but what about the black cat girlfriend? 

Though it’s usually used to describe a woman in a relationship, black cat energy isn’t exclusive to female partners. In fact, anyone can embody the energy of the black cat in dating. 

Here’s how to do it—and the benefits it might bring you.

What Is Black Cat Energy in Dating?

According to Dr. Alexandra Foglia, DMFT, Director of Family Programs at All in Solutions, “Black cat energy is a way to describe people who display behaviors in relationships that are similar to the way a stereotypical black cat acts.” 

As the owner of an adorable black cat, I can attest that their behavior is iconic. Let’s just say they know their worth—and they have some strict........

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