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5 Ways to Spot Dating Red Flags Without Overthinking Everything, According to Therapists

Therapists share five ways to spot dating red flags, trust your judgment, and avoid turning every awkward moment into a crisis.

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Today, being hypervigilant in a relationship feels more like doing our due diligence. We’ve constantly been bombarded with dating horror stories and cheating storytimes on TikTok, putting most daters on edge when getting to know someone new. While it’s important to spot potential signs of an untrustworthy partner, you should also practice discernment over snap judgments.

Here are five ways to spot red flags in a partner—without being overly paranoid.

1. Tune Into Your Own Feelings/Intuition

The internet will give you a long list of potential red flags that could immediately disqualify well-intentioned partners. For example, some people consider being friends with an ex or opposite-sex individual as a negative, while others think it’s a positive. Some even say bringing flowers to a first date is love-bombing, while others consider it a must-do. 

In other words, we all have our own dating standards, boundaries, and biases. When in doubt, trust your intuition. 

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