Understanding Sexual Orientation

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Fraysexuality is part of the asexuality spectrum.

Fraysexuality describes strong sexual desire for people someone doesn't know well.

Fraysexuals tend to experience diminishing sexual desire once an emotional connection is established.

Fraysexuality is often misunderstood as an intimacy or attachment disorder, and unduly pathologised.

Do you have strong sexual desire for people you don’t know, but as soon as a romantic relationship is established, you lose your sexual desire for that person?

If you have noticed that this is your pattern, you might believe there is something wrong with you. You might have heard about “avoidant attachment style” and wondered if it was your problem.

Perhaps nothing is wrong with you. You could be a fraysexual.

Human sexuality is often discussed as a fixed linear and predictable trajectory: People meet, attraction grows, emotional intimacy deepens, and sexual desire strengthens. The dominant societal narrative tells us that the only “normal” is when two people are in a long-term monogamous relationship where sex keeps thriving, and that this is what we should aspire to. But human sexuality doesn’t always follow that narrative because there is much more diversity than that.

Fraysexuality is a sexual orientation that describes a person primarily experiencing sexual desire for people they........

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