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Sex clubs help gay men embrace sexual diversity, healing, and authentic self-expression.

Sex clubs offer gay men a judgment-free space that counters minority stress and discrimination.

For some gay men, sex clubs nurture queer spirituality and expansive definitions of love.

Talking about visiting sex clubs is frowned upon in society. Some gay men enjoy visiting gay sex clubs on a regular basis, and that regularity is often seen as negative by society and loaded with moral judgments. As a psychotherapist working with many gay men, I have noticed that many of them report increased well-being as a result of visiting sexualised spaces. Within the societal noise of moral judgment, it is difficult to hear nuance in those conversations, but it is important not to shame gay men whose lives do not fit in with societal expectations.

What are gay sex clubs?

Gay sex clubs are adult-only, men-only sexualised spaces. An increasing number of “men-only” establishments include "all men," which means that trans men are welcome. too.

Most gay sex clubs offer different options for sexual and erotic connections; for example, booths for one-to-one (or three) people wanting to have sex in private, and more open spaces for people who enjoy group sex and/or enjoy “public” sex (i.e., being watched or watching). Some gay sex clubs have special nights such as “Naked Only” nights (also called “Boots Only”), and some sex clubs specialise in kink, catering to the diverse kinky community with stricter dress codes (leather, Lycra, and sports gear, for example). Some sexualised places can be “wet” ones, also called gay saunas, offering a pool, sauna, and steam rooms; the dress code is usually naked with a towel around the waist. Gay sex clubs also provide condoms and lube for free. Most establishments have a no-drug policy (other than poppers).

How can visiting gay sex clubs be good for gay men?

In my therapeutic work with gay men, I have observed several benefits for gay, bisexual, queer........

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