We’re lucky if we have even one friend who really knows us. I mean, truly knows us—our history, our wiring, the things we don’t always say out loud.

I’m even more grateful that I have a friend like that… who’s also willing to play around like we’re kids.

That’s what I’ve found in my friendship with John Kim, aka "The Angry Therapist."

We share a lot of overlapping terrain: immigrant parents, childhood trauma, Asian shame. We’ve also walked through some valleys together—heartbreak, divorce, and leaving previous careers (me as a journalist, him as a screenwriter) to become therapists in our own ways.

We don’t see each other often anymore. He lives in Costa Rica. I’m in Seattle. Life has moved........

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