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Real security involves accepting life's inherent dangers and unpredictability.

Security may stem from internal resilience, not external assurances.

Faith and self-kindness provide stability when external securities falter.

I recently discovered I was living with a fabricated measure of security. Such a discovery had me wondering about other possible forms of fake security in my life.

Living in rural Connecticut almost demands having a generator to handle periodic power outages. Last December, we purchased a $10,000.00 generator, which I decided would be the way to secure winter warmth. No storm would leave us shivering under candlelight.

However, our trusty generator needed propane to operate. Discovering a reliable source was a tedious task with no easy find. We made it through two winter storms with the hope that a propane delivery was imminent. Unfortunately, not so imminent. The third storm left us powerless for more than 30 hours. I awoke on a Tuesday morning with viral bronchitis and was greeted by a room temperature of 52 degrees.

My immediate response was to curse the new propane company. I quickly dressed, refusing to wear a hat, and noticed how victimized I felt. I decided to hold myself to a level of accountability. Remaining a victim did not feel like a viable option with no one prepared to save me. I thought, what do I advocate others do when a situation is not accommodating........

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