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The word "should" is ingrained in our brain as a source of learning and growth.

But the expetation-reality gap can become the source of our suffering and disappointment.

Pausing when we use the word "should" and examining our expectations may help shift our narratives.

We have control over our beliefs, decisions, and character even when reality does not go our way.

Imagine you are 53, working a job that you mastered, paying bills, and enjoying your family life. One day, you start to notice a tremor in your hands. You are stiffer and slower to walk. You attribute this to middle age but mention this to your primary care physician. The next thing you know, you are sitting in a neurologist’s office and are diagnosed with Parkinson’s Disease.

Henry (his name has been changed) suffered this fate, but what tortured him most over the course of the next few years were not the symptoms of Parkinson’s.

"I should be working. I am still young. I should not have to go on disability.”

Losing his identity as a provider for the family was the biggest blow. He started to suffer from depression and anxiety.

A few months ago, Henry strained his back, which led to multiple emergency room visits and a setback for his mental health.

In a follow-up........

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